15 minutes, maybe lol I feel like people might want me for something and won't be able to reach me.
~Lovingthisway
- I'm in:room
- Feeling:
indifferent - Listening to:Kiss From a Rose ~ Seal
Aries Woman
Romance is something that no Aries can live without and the same goes for an Aries woman also. However, for her, not getting on without romance is not same as not being able to live without a man. In her heart, she will always be yearning for that someone special, thinking about him in the monsoon and that will be her idea of romance. She doesn't need a real man for it. Aries female is the one who will do anything and everything herself, without needing any male help. One of her basic personality traits is total confidence in her abilities.
She has to lead, to be the first one to do anything. At times, her independence does not go well with the male ego. However, an Aries girl never wants a puppy for a lover or a husband. She seeks a man, but not the one who constantly chases her. The best way to woo her is to throw subtle hints, be a little detached and keep her wondering. Give her the impression that you can resist her charms and she will come rushing to you, to prove that she's desirable. Aries women will never have to yearn for male attention.
They always get plenty of it, but inside they will be waiting for the one they cannot have. An Aries woman can survive even the toughest of circumstances alone and has the ability to come back even after the most gruesome tragedies. She can play the role of a female perfectly and, at the same time, can do everything that a man can do. If you have managed to subdue her aggressive drive, you will be treated to a woman who is full of optimism and has such faith in future that can uplift your mood also.
An Aries female does not like flattery. You should be sincere while complimenting her. Over-sweetness and too much closeness can make her run away, but she doesn't want you to be too detached also. You'll have to maintain that delicate balance and still keep the romance alive. Once she has committed to you, she will be extremely sentimental and very loyal. Don't dominate an Aries female and don't let her dominate you. Either of the extremes, she will not be able to tolerate. Give her reasons to be proud of you, but do not forget to praise her for her talent too. Her expectations are too high, but she will also give you double in return.
She is very possessive and love is something she can never share. She can be very jealous even at the slightest of suspicion. In case you have a female secretary, it is better to bid her good bye right now. If an Aries girl gets hurt, she will become as cold as the ice in your fridge and this behavior may last an entire lifetime. She is generous to the faults of her loved ones and it is better not to criticize them in front of her. On the other hand, if you are good to her, she will be extremely kind, tender, loyal and supportive.
You will get plenty of reasons to be jealous when you are with an Aries female, since she is more comfortable with men than women. However, don't be suspicious of her, she would be really hurt. She is possessive, but she doesn't like to be possessed. She wants her freedom and your complete trust. Remember, if she's committed to you, you have no reasons to doubt her loyalty and sincerity. An Aries woman is much too truthful to be involved with two people at the same time. She will first break up the relationship that is not working.
She is extremely passionate and believes in forever-lasting relationships. Though, this leaves her disillusioned many a times. She will never play games with you and is incapable of deceit. An Aries girl is nothing if not simple, innocent and very emotional. Maximum chances are that she will continue her career even after marriage. She loves challenges and believes in miracles. Though it sounds a little freaky, but miracles do happen in her case. Just like a typical Aries, she never learns from her mistakes and is likely to fall in the same hole again.
For her love means sharing and that means sharing everything, right from her emotions and checkbook to your bank account. Always respect an Aries woman and never try to dampen her zeal, or she will be hurt. Though she tries to show that she is very strong, she is as innocent and as vulnerable as a baby. Be there to comfort her when she runs up to you after being disappointed with the world. If you stand up to her when she comes to you like this, you will never ever lose her. An Aries female will never forgive you if you fail to fight for her.
In return, she will always be there with you, even if she has to go against the whole world. She is not the one to feign illness, but if she is really ill, be there to care for her. She is quite extravagant and giving her the debit cards will mean an empty bank account. She will be a caring mother, who makes no unnecessary fuss and sparks children's imagination. An Aries girl has a bad temper, but it will go away as quickly as it came and leave no grudges behind. She is a complete woman, who gets hurt easily and is totally innocent. Though she is a little impulsive and bossy, she will give you complete security, fight against the world for you and be yours forever!
*actual post (Part 2) coming soon*
- I'm in:mom's house
- Feeling:
anxious - Listening to:nothing
Listed in order of yayness
-Tom
-Jason (weird right)
Everyone else has until midnight tonight to not recieve a very unhappy phone call/text.
I'm waiting.
----(4/14, 2:17 am) Well now:
-Greg
-Sal
are no longer on my shitlist. (People from Jersey even wished me a happy birthday, thanks to Facebook reminding them) And I've come to the conclusion that I'm too tired to be bitching to people. So everyone else can kiss my ass.
- I'm in:room
- Feeling:
cynical - Listening to:Corbin Bleu
I’m tryna think back to my last entry, and it was really nothing but a bunch of pathetic statements that prolly shouldn’t have been admitted, but hey, I’m in the mood for moving forward tonight.
Happy April Fools, you future unlucky bitches. I shall be in my house, protected from everyone’s stupidity. And although I would like to run the streets and just pitch eggs at your faces, I value my legal freedom.
Sooo…. As I’ve been: I’ve done nothing until this Friday that just came up. I hadn’t left the house officially since maybe September, and Friday was a nice day. Besides I had a book due for the library :/ So I just left the house saying ‘I’m going to the library and-then-I’m-taking-a-walk’ and went on a lovely excursion that reminded me of just how much of a fat lazy ass I was. By the time I got to McDonalds (very unhealthy of me even though I didn’t get anything) I was winded and just wanted to sit down. I saw Nevin there, and he told that his life sucked, which, when you hear it, sounds… pretty bad, not as bad as I thought it would be. So we’re talking for maybe 15 minutes, and then he has to go to work, so I leave him to that.I got pissed because left my water bottle on the table there and didn’t realize until I was a street away. I was gonna buy another one but when I was waiting to cross the street and get into the YMCA to do so I turn around and see this dark ass dude walking towards me to cross, and I recognized the way he walked. I wasn’t even sure it was Greg until he was less than 20 feet away. We were pretty happy to see each other, I told him the day before that I was going out and where he could meet if he could, and through some timing issues and his just being (un)lucky we ran into each other. We’d started walking towards Barkley (whatever the fuck) Square and he saId he couldn’t stay with me long (boooo Greg) because his girlfriend was having him got to Dave and Buster’s with her, so I was like okay sure. I wasn’t entirely expecting to see Bill, but Greg had offered and said Bill wouldn’t be doing anything but sleeping, so I just went with it. Kinda didn’t want to see him. I don’t know why. Or maybe I do. I am so not sure.
But in any case I follow Greg as he just busts all up in Bill’s house through the back door. He tried to scare Bill I guess, saying he’d brought Jernike, and I don’t know if what emotion crossed his face (relief?) when it wasn’t her, but me. I just saw this…. depressing form of Bill staring up at me from his chair. We both traded some paranoid words and then –I’m not sure what the hell happened. Greg, Bill and Bill’s mom just starting shouting at each other. It wasn’t like arguing, just like loud conversation. It reminds me now vaguely of the way certain European families get lol. I think it had something to do with bread. I just went to the farthest corner of a room and watched them all. When I finally got into the kitchen (which I want in my own house) where Bill and Greg were, Greg goes and puts water on the floor. Actually if I remember correctly he dripped it on one of Bill’s cats. That’s mean, unsanitary, dangerous, and- if you don’t officially live in a house you have no right to leave shit on the floor. But um….
Greg had to go home and take a shower before he left for his girlfriend, and I just kinda followed them out. They give me the impression a lot of the time that they assume I’m going to do something, mostly Bill, and don’t really care to ask me, which bothers me. It’s nice to be invited somewhere to do something, not feel like you’re tagging along like some stray animal (although I like being petted). …Back on topic: so we take some very wild-y looking path I’ve followed them on before and don’t really know the name of, until we reach Greg’s house. We talked about porn (the things I found Monday night- slightly disturbing)… which reminds me. The whole trip there Greg threatened me with rape, like he always does, but this time- he put me in what I hope was an unintentional headlock. Walking on a rocky road laughing and panting loses its charms after a about 10 feet. Where was Bill in all this? Some yards up, possibly avoiding us. He was swinging his *insert proper name of handguard-less practice sword thing* at trees, just kinda… not being near. Greg lived closer than I thought… he and I got into some kind of ghetto shouting match about some kids we don’t have lol, and Bill like TRIED to hide behind his sword. When Greg went inside and I approached him- he looked almost EXACTLY like my brother does when he’s about to do something he knows I don’t like. I fought the urge to hurt Bill just out of reflex. *not a child abuser* He abruptly stood and was like, ‘come on’ and started walking off. And I wonder again, am I some kind of dog. If I just stand here and not move, will he stop and come back, ask me if anything’s wrong, will he stop at all and just look at me, or will he just keep going and not give a damn. I thought all this in the course of him taking maybe 5 steps, and just sighed sadly and kept going with him. What would I have done that would not have made a mountain out of, well, a rather steep hill?
We talked the entire way to wherever we were going, I don’t remember the same or what we were talking about. It’s like a big field with a soccer and a baseball field, and some other shit. All I know is that we went near a tree and he threatened (playfully, I’m sure) me with that sword. It was actually less like threatened and more like he used me as some kind of target. He didn’t hit me, but I was wondering what would happen if he did. A lot of people were walking around, and I’ll admit that I have a paranoia issue and that I’m racist toward my own; some Black guys were walking somewhere like 30 yards away and I just couldn’t stop staring. I knew I looked bad, Bill I think called me twice to get my attention and tell me to relax. So there’s one thing he’s had first hand experience with me, about me. One thing that sticks to me about him is that he says I’m blunt. To the point of hurting someone’s feelings. I do tend to comment a lot about the things he does. And not to say he’s a pussy, but after that it began to dawn on me that yeah- I am really honest to the point of hurting people. And that hurt me to hear, even though I was smirking, cuz people always tell me that. He’s says I can’t help it, but I changed that quality about me before, I can help it, it just doesn’t help me.
Btw, I had gotten a text from Nevin saying he wanted to go out with me, and I had to ask Bill how to nicely turn someone down, which took hours to do without me panicking. He and I can give good advice, we just don’t seem to have any of our own to follow when it comes to unrequited crushes wanting us. :P
Eventually we left there, and we said we were going over to some other place so he could exercise. Turned out it was a school, and we got there just before it started getting dark. I did my little survey the area thing as we went up to the bleachers there. It was nice altogether, being outside and breathing fresh air for a while. I was watching Bill do his pushups-down-the-stairs-and-not-bust-my-f
Maybe I’m thinking too hard.
It got too cold for either of us to be outside, and even though I had gotten comfortable enough not to want to leave, I knew we had to. It was like way past 8 and I needed to go home. He sort of stated he was going to walk me home after apparently not wanting to enter his house, so I was like… okay. So now he knows where I live and I am now quite paranoid now that he knows. Don’t know why though, he wouldn’t come over. Digressing--- it turns out that the street I live on isn’t too far from the one this girl he knows named Kari lives on. *not going to talk about that* so we had finally said goodbye after maybe 6 and a half hours lol of talking and walking. He had given me one of his usual skeleton crushing hugs, which I would have enjoyed more if my headphones had not been crushing my jugular. We had like shouted at each other to keep in touch (so far I’m the only one holding up my end- he’s doing who knows what), and he walked off.
So I get into the house and NOONE is like worried that I’ve been gone for hours for the first time in months. Daddy was just watching wrestling on the couch. D: At least Tashy spoke without having me address her first. It wasn’t until I go upstairs that I realize I can sorta smell Bill on my shirt, which is always something I laugh about. When I thought about the day’s events, I realized, I didn’t touch him as much as I used to. I didn’t to begin with, but being without males around so long kept me a lot more to myself. He had petted my head twice, which outside of the departure hug, was the only contact he initiated, but like I stated before I like that so it didn’t bother me. I think I didn’t hug him when I greeted him in his house either. I’m just fucking up, ain’t I. Or maybe I’m avoiding too much self-initiated contact with him subconsciously, because I know what's going to happen if I don't.
So well I saw Twilight this weekend too, it wasn’t that great, I laughed prolly when I wasn’t supposed to. It was better than I expected though it followed almost none of the rules common and traditional Vampires are supposed to go by. I’m waiting for the sequel to come; supposedly there’s to be werewolves and there’s nothing hotter than a werewolf. Lol
I’m going to get in contact with Jason in a few days, he says he can help me understand the loan process better, but that needs to be done before Tashy’s spring break and I talk to my mom about how loans work. Mommy may have rejected the surgery she needs, so I’m going to have to step up and become more active in checking on her.
- I'm in:room
- Feeling:
lonely - Listening to:music in my head
"Tell 'em that it's Human Nature.... I like loving this way, I like living this way."
The way I live, the way I love, I like it all , it is my nature, it's my human nature.
It's Human Nature.
The Lyrics:
Looking out,
Across the nighttime,
The city winks a sleepless eye....
Hear her voice,
Shake my window,
Sweet seducing sighs....
Get me out,
Into the nighttime
Four walls won't hold me tonight....
If this town,
Is just an apple,
Then let me take a bite....
Chorus
If they say.
Why, why, tell 'em that is Human Nature,
Why, why, does he do me that way....
If they say
Why, why, tell em that is Human Nature,
Why, why, does he do me that way....
Reaching out,
To touch a stranger,
Electric eyes are everywhere....
See that girl,
She knows I'm watching,
She likes the way I stare....
Chorus
If they say,
Why, why, tell 'em that is Human Nature,
Why, why, does he do me that way,
If they say,
Why, why, tell em that is Human Nature,
Why, why, does he do me that way,
I like living this way,
I like loving this way,
(instrumental section)
That way....
Whyyyyy, oh whyyyyy...
That way...
Whyyyyyyy, whyyyyy...
Looking out,
Across the morning,
The city's heart begins to beat....
Reaching out,
I touch her shoulder,
I'm dreaming of the street....
Chorus
If they say,
Why, why, tell 'em that is Human Nature,
Why, why, does he do me that way...
If they say, why, why,
Ooooooh, tell 'em,
Why, Why, does he do me that way...
If they say... why....
Chada cha cha sha sha sha jaaa,
Why, (Whyyy), why does he do me that way...
If they say, why, why, why,
Ooooooh, tell 'em,
Why, why, does he do me that way...
If they say, why, why,
Ooooooh, tell 'em,
Why, why, does he do me that way...
If they say, why, why,
Dada da da da da da da....
Why, why, does he do me that way,
I like living this way...
Whyyyyy, oh whyyyyy...
Whyyyyyyy, ya whyyyyy...
Whyyyyyyyy, oh whyyyyyyyyy...
(fade)
- I'm in:my room
- Feeling:
thoughtful - Listening to:Human Nature ~ Michael Jackson
- I'm in:room
- Feeling:
hungry - Listening to:the music of mah brain
- I'm in:my room
- Feeling:
okay - Listening to:Brothers FullMetal~ something else from Bill's profile
Lust- I'm waiting for it to kick in fully one day... after I'm like 21.
Envy- Actually I don't get jealous or envious, I get depressed. Really, really. Depressed.
- I'm in:my room
- Feeling:
tired - Listening to:Namine~ a KH song from Bill's profile
Your Type is |
Introverted | Intuitive | Feeling | Judging |
Strength of the preferences % | |||
56 | 12 | 50 | 44 |
INFJ type description by D.Keirsey
INFJ Identify Your Career with Jung Career Indicator™ INFJ Famous Personalities
INFJ type description by J. Butt and M.M. Heiss
Qualitative analysis of your type formula
You are:
- moderately expressed introvert
- slightly expressed intuitive personality
- moderately expressed feeling personality
- moderately expressed judging personality
Those who take this test also take tests
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Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
(Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)
The Protector
As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.
INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.
INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.
INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.
But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.
Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.
INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.
In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.
The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.
Jungian functional preference ordering:
Dominant: Introverted Intuition
Auxilliary: Extraverted Feeling
Tertiary: Introverted Thinking
Inferior: Extraverted Sensing
Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
by Joe Butt
Profile: INFJ
Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the weightier matters of life. Those who are activists -- INFJs gravitate toward such a role -- are there for the cause, not for personal glory or political power.
INFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden. They often are found in the wake of an emergency, rescuing those who are in acute distress. INFJs may fantasize about getting revenge on those who victimize the defenseless. The concept of 'poetic justice' is appealing to the INFJ.
"There's something rotten in Denmark." Accurately suspicious about others' motives, INFJs are not easily led. These are the people that you can rarely fool any of the time. Though affable and sympathetic to most, INFJs are selective about their friends. Such a friendship is a symbiotic bond that transcends mere words.
INFJs have a knack for fluency in language and facility in communication. In addition, nonverbal sensitivity enables the INFJ to know and be known by others intimately.
Writing, counseling, public service and even politics are areas where INFJs frequently find their niche.
Introverted iNtuition
Introverted intuitives, INFJs enjoy a greater clarity of perception of inner, unconscious processes than all but their INTJ cousins. Just as SP types commune with the object and "live in the here and now" of the physical world, INFJs readily grasp the hidden psychological stimuli behind the more observable dynamics of behavior and affect. Their amazing ability to deduce the inner workings of the mind, will and emotions of others gives INFJs their reputation as prophets and seers. Unlike the confining, routinizing nature of introverted sensing, introverted intuition frees this type to act insightfully and spontaneously as unique solutions arise on an event by event basis.
Extraverted Feeling
Extraverted feeling, the auxiliary deciding function, expresses a range of emotion and opinions of, for and about people. INFJs, like many other FJ types, find themselves caught between the desire to express their wealth of feelings and moral conclusions about the actions and attitudes of others, and the awareness of the consequences of unbridled candor. Some vent the attending emotions in private, to trusted allies. Such confidants are chosen with care, for INFJs are well aware of the treachery that can reside in the hearts of mortals. This particular combination of introverted intuition and extraverted feeling provides INFJs with the raw material from which perceptive counselors are shaped.
Introverted Thinking
The INFJ's thinking is introverted, turned toward the subject. Perhaps it is when the INFJ's thinking function is operative that he is most aloof. A comrade might surmise that such detachment signals a disillusionment, that she has also been found lacking by the sardonic eye of this one who plumbs the depths of the human spirit. Experience suggests that such distancing is merely an indication that the seer is hard at work and focusing energy into this less efficient tertiary function.
Extraverted Sensing
INFJs are twice blessed with clarity of vision, both internal and external. Just as they possess inner vision which is drawn to the forms of the unconscious, they also have external sensing perception which readily takes hold of worldly objects. Sensing, however, is the weakest of the INFJ's arsenal and the most vulnerable. INFJs, like their fellow intuitives, may be so absorbed in intuitive perceiving that they become oblivious to physical reality. The INFJ under stress may fall prey to various forms of immediate gratification. Awareness of extraverted sensing is probably the source of the "SP wannabe" side of INFJs. Many yearn to live spontaneously; it's not uncommon for INFJ actors to take on an SP (often ESTP) role.
Famous INFJs:
Nathan, prophet of Israel
Aristophanes
Chaucer
Goethe
Robert Burns, Scottish poet
U.S. Presidents:
Martin Van Buren
James Earl "Jimmy" Carter
Nathaniel Hawthorne
Fanny Crosby, (blind) hymnist
Mother Teresa of Calcutta
Fred McMurray (My Three Sons)
Shirley Temple Black, child actor, ambassador
Martin Luther King, Jr., civil rights leader, martyr
James Reston, newspaper reporter
Shirley MacLaine (Sweet Charity, ...)
Piers Anthony, author ("Xanth" series)
Michael Landon (Little House on the Prairie)
Tom Selleck
John Katz, critic, author
Paul Stookey (Peter, Paul and Mary)
U. S. Senator Carol Moseley-Braun (D-IL)
Billy Crystal
Garry Trudeau (Doonesbury)
Nelson Mandela
Mel Gibson
Carrie Fisher
Nicole Kidman
Jerry Seinfeld
Jamie Foxx
Sela Ward
Mark Harmon
Gary Dourdan
Marg Helgaberger
Madonna
Elizabeth Taylor
Evangeline Lilly
Tori May
by Marina Margaret Heiss
INFJs are distinguished by both their complexity of character and the unusual range and depth of their talents. Strongly humanitarian in outlook, INFJs tend to be idealists, and because of their J preference for closure and completion, they are generally "doers" as well as dreamers. This rare combination of vision and practicality often results in INFJs taking a disproportionate amount of responsibility in the various causes to which so many of them seem to be drawn.
INFJs are deeply concerned about their relations with individuals as well as the state of humanity at large. They are, in fact, sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people -- a product of the Feeling function they most readily show to the world. On the contrary, INFJs are true introverts, who can only be emotionally intimate and fulfilled with a chosen few from among their long-term friends, family, or obvious "soul mates." While instinctively courting the personal and organizational demands continually made upon them by others, at intervals INFJs will suddenly withdraw into themselves, sometimes shutting out even their intimates. This apparent paradox is a necessary escape valve for them, providing both time to rebuild their depleted resources and a filter to prevent the emotional overload to which they are so susceptible as inherent "givers." As a pattern of behavior, it is perhaps the most confusing aspect of the enigmatic INFJ character to outsiders, and hence the most often misunderstood -- particularly by those who have little experience with this rare type.
Due in part to the unique perspective produced by this alternation between detachment and involvement in the lives of the people around them, INFJs may well have the clearest insights of all the types into the motivations of others, for good and for evil. The most important contributing factor to this uncanny gift, however, are the empathic abilities often found in Fs, which seem to be especially heightened in the INFJ type (possibly by the dominance of the introverted N function).
This empathy can serve as a classic example of the two-edged nature of certain INFJ talents, as it can be strong enough to cause discomfort or pain in negative or stressful situations. More explicit inner conflicts are also not uncommon in INFJs; it is possible to speculate that the causes for some of these may lie in the specific combinations of preferences which define this complex type. For instance, there can sometimes be a "tug-of-war" between NF vision and idealism and the J practicality that urges compromise for the sake of achieving the highest priority goals. And the I and J combination, while perhaps enhancing self-awareness, may make it difficult for INFJs to articulate their deepest and most convoluted feelings.
Usually self-expression comes more easily to INFJs on paper, as they tend to have strong writing skills. Since in addition they often possess a strong personal charisma, INFJs are generally well-suited to the "inspirational" professions such as teaching (especially in higher education) and religious leadership. Psychology and counseling are other obvious choices, but overall, INFJs can be exceptionally difficult to pigeonhole by their career paths. Perhaps the best example of this occurs in the technical fields. Many INFJs perceive themselves at a disadvantage when dealing with the mystique and formality of "hard logic", and in academic terms this may cause a tendency to gravitate towards the liberal arts rather than the sciences. However, the significant minority of INFJs who do pursue studies and careers in the latter areas tend to be as successful as their T counterparts, as it is *iNtuition* -- the dominant function for the INFJ type -- which governs the ability to understand abstract theory and implement it creatively.
In their own way, INFJs are just as much "systems builders" as are INTJs; the difference lies in that most INFJ "systems" are founded on human beings and human values, rather than information and technology. Their systems may for these reasons be conceptually "blurrier" than analogous NT ones, harder to measure in strict numerical terms, and easier to take for granted -- yet it is these same underlying reasons which make the resulting contributions to society so vital and profound.
Introverted iNtuiting Feeling Judging
- I'm in:my room
- Feeling:
tired - Listening to:Sal being... Sal